Children in the Delivery Room, Yay or Nay?

Should children see their new sibling be born?

Recently, Moms Council member Julie Short posted a link on Facebook about parents asking about their children being present in the delivery room for the birth of their new baby.

The article said that older children can be less jealous of their new sibling if they are there when it's born. A Boston Globe article told of 2- and 4-year-old children yelling "Push, push" during delivery, and a 7-year-old cutting the umbilical cord.

One hospital requires that each child in the delivery room be assigned to an adult for supervision and care. 

Today, let's talk children and childbirth. Does this make sense or have these parents just completely lost their minds? Would you be able to deal with contractions and your other children at the same time, or is that taking multi-tasking a wee bit too far?

Joining us, as always, is our awesome Moms Council.

 is a freelance reporter who has worked with Patch and is also a communications professional. She is a first-time mom of a son born in 2010.

 works in public relations. She has a daughter, Amara. Monina is also a member of the Disney Moms Panel, one of 15 moms selected nationwide, advising people online about planning Disney vacations. Monina has also started blogging for Avon Patch. If you're a parent and want to share your experiences raising children in Avon, you can also .

 is a mom of four children ages 6 and under with her husband, Bill. Their fourth child, Colette, arrived Jan. 10. Stephanie also works part-time.

 is a native of New Jersey. She is a marketing professional who has worked in advertising, market research, vending and equipment companies. She and her husband live in Avon with their two children.

 is a mom to a Girl Scout and lives in Avon.

 is a member of the  and past president of Avon Early Childhood PTA.

Stephanie Predovich May 02, 2012 at 05:23 PM
I personally would never have any of my children in the delivery room with me. Childbirth is painful and messy and can be traumatic. What if something happened to the mom or baby? Would you want the children to see this? My kids would get scared seeing the whole process. They do not understand the whole concept yet of how a baby is made or born. If they saw me in pain it would freak them out. We had the kids in the room after our daughter was born and she was being cleaned up under the warmer. They walked in and went straight to the warmer. I would have loved to had been holding the baby when they walked in. They were amazed with how small she was and what the nurse was doing but they don't need to see the process it took to get to that point.
kris zielinski May 02, 2012 at 05:26 PM
who caes? it's a personal choice that the family and mostly the mother should make.
Julie A. Short May 02, 2012 at 05:33 PM
I barely wanted to be in the delivery room! I personally do not think this is a good idea. My delivery was crazy.....ended up having an emergency c-section at the last minute. I wouldn't want an older sibling to see that. I honestly don't get the whole "jealous" theory. What would they be jealous about? Kids are going to have a very rough time in life if that is what we are worried about them being "jealous" over. On a lighter note to this topic, it would be a great form of birth control for teenagers if someone happened to have a teenager and mommy got pregnant (my sister had a 13-year when she found out she was pregnant with her third). But a 4-year old doesn't understand any of this.
Sara Burchett May 03, 2012 at 12:44 PM
My seven year old daughter witnessed the birth of her little brother. Her grandmother was there for her support, and to help her from getting too bored. She said it was messy, but that she was extremely happy to get to see her baby brother being born. It is natural for the children to want to see their siblings being born. She was also the first to get to hold him after the birth. I would never want to take that experience away from her. We are due to have another baby in a few months, and I plan on allowing her to watch this one too as we are planning a water birth, but my 18 month old son will not be there. It depends on the level of maturity of the child. Also, I would not allow her in the room if I had a high risk pregnancy. We spent months preparing her for the experience, watching birth videos, taking a siblings class together, letting her help set up the nursery... Honestly, she handled the entire experience better than my husband.


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